The Child in My Heart

11:05 PM Posted by Jessica F.

It took me a long time to really face what I am going through. Only now 2 years later, I decided to be strong and realize… yes, it happened to me.

Gladly I have an awesome friend who helped and still is helping me go through these situations. It is very difficult to go through infertility and/or miscarriage when everyone around you seems to be the most fertile person in the world or simply capable of holding a baby in full term. I don’t think people see that it’s not that simple and it’s quite hard for some people to have their own full-term babies.

When we look at charts and we see the percentages, it is not that hard to know that you are not alone; for instance, 5 people out of 10* have a fertility issue. But when you look around you, the situation gets harder and harder… and harder! You turn your head, and there are families. Babies crying, sister wanting her toy from the bag and brother crying because he just fell off a bike. While their parents are saying, "Lord, give me patience!" We are actually looking at that and want to be saying, "Lord give me patience!"

Patience. Yes, we need that. This was a word I would be almost kicking the wall for. Why on earth do I need patience? It was clear to me that I needed and still need that simple word for when I see a family with a sweet little baby, not only because you want one but you remember your baby. I mean, when you have infertility issues, it seems that it doesn’t matter how many people you know, you never know someone with the same problem as you. And to be realistic, it’s true. Most people need to go to support groups because even though the chart says 5 out of 10*, it seems like it’s 1 out of all people in the world and patience is the hardest thing to find in those moments. ...Click here to continue reading this post...

Welcome to A Mom at Heart

11:08 AM Posted by Julia

Welcome to A Mom at Heart! We're so glad you're here.

A Mom at Heart is resource for those who have lost their babies and for those who long for babies. Whether you have suffered a miscarriage or stillbirth, or have never been pregnant, this is a place for you. I recently learned that even those who have been pregnant and had miscarriages are still counted among those who suffer from infertility, since infertility includes those who have been unable to carry to term.

Our staff currently includes Julia Temlyn (editor-in-chief & writer), and Jessica (writer). Read more about us here! We would love to welcome to aboard, as well, if you feel you have something to share with our community. If you would like to join us, contact us.

We are working to compile the best resources out there and make them available to our readers. Have a resource you'd like to share? Contact us.

I, Julia, created this site to fill a need that was lacking in the typical “mommy” blogs and sites. After three years of trying to conceive (since April 2007), and a miscarriage in June 2008, I don’t feel like I fit in some of the “mommy” communities because I do not have a child here on earth.

Many mommy blogs and forums skip straight from Trying to Conceive to Pregnancy/Pregnant, with no options for those of us who have conceived, who have been pregnant, but then have experienced the loss of our babies.

To some who have children, we are not really mommies.

I proudly proclaim that I am a mommy, even though my child is in heaven. And so are you.

Welcome.



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